“You know the reason The Beatles made it so big?…’I Wanna Hold Your Hand.’ First single. Fucking brilliant. Perhaps the most fucking brilliant song ever written. Because they nailed it. That’s what everyone wants. Not 24/7 hot wet sex. Not a marriage that lasts a hundred years. Not a Porsche…or a million-dollar crib. No. They wanna hold your hand. They have such a feeling that they can’t hide. Every single successful song of the past fifty years can be traced back to ‘I Wanna Hold Your Hand.’ And every single successful love story has those unbearable and unbearably exciting moments of hand-holding.” – Nick and Norah’s Infinite Playlist
Why do we hold hands? In every culture, all over the world, you’ll find people holding hands; it’s part of human nature. Everybody wants to be held, whether it’s to show our love for one another, to alleviate fear and pain, or just because we can. When you hold someone’s hand, there’s a connection forged between you, different with every person and circumstance. In that moment, it feels like you’re one person, encased in a bubble, alone in each other’s thoughts and feelings.
When you’re sad, you take someone’s hand to help you through, give you something to hold onto and eventually pull you out on the other side. When you’re happy, you grab someone’s hand as a silent celebration of the moment. A secret joy known only to those who’ve experienced it, a moment shared, a moment to remember.
We hold hands from the earliest age and throughout our lives. Babies have an instinct to hold and not let go, more often then not, reaching for people’s fingers. Growing up, you hold your mother’s hand as you cross the road, and if you fall over, her hand will be there to help you back up. Holding a friend’s hand expresses an understanding of each other and shows the bond and commitment between you. Couples hold hands in a way that is unique to their relationship. One hand fits inside the other and all of a sudden you’re complete.
Deep down, all we want is someone to hold our hand. A sign that someone cares and isn’t afraid to show it. Loves us enough to show the world.